Hi Reader,

✨The Wild Child Parent Coach ✨

This week has been a bit of a mixed bag for us.

But one moment that really stood out? My little end-of-week celebration on Instagram... because Matthew managed his very first school disco. 🎉

Now, if you’d spoken to me a year ago, I would have told you that discos were firmly in the “absolutely not for Matthew” category. Loud music, flashing lights, crowds, chaos… It was an automatic no.

And yet... he did it. On his terms. In his own time. And he was so proud.

I’ve been learning (again and again) how powerful it is to let him stretch his own comfort zone when he’s ready.

Not when I think he should be.

And the more I zoom out, the more I realise… isn’t that true for all of us?

🎉 We all like to feel in control of our own growth.
🎉 We don’t want to be pushed into discomfort.
🎉 We don’t want to be compared to everyone else.

And yet, how often do we unintentionally say things to our kids that completely miss that?

Oof. Been there.

With Matthew, it’s taken deep surrender. Not because I’m super wise and evolved (I wish!) but because trying to control it all just wasn’t working. At all.

So we stopped trying to rush it.

And slowly, he started to lead.
And when he’s in the driving seat? That’s when the growth really happens.

✅ He’s more tolerant of failure.
✅ More determined to keep trying.
✅ More excited and proud of himself.
✅ And more willing to move from cautious to confident.

Honestly - it makes total sense.

It’s like that moment you’ve been staring at the cluttered garage for months thinking, “I should really sort that out…”​
And then one day, you wake up, and suddenly it’s like: “Today’s the day.”

Not because someone told you to.
Not because you were shamed into it.
But because something inside you shifted. And it became possible.

Our kids are like that too.

And when we make space for their timing - however inconvenient, unpredictable, or uncomfortable it may be - it doesn’t mean nothing is happening.

It means something real is growing under the surface.

And when it sprouts?

It’s strong.
It’s owned.
And it’s theirs.

That’s the long game.​
And it’s so worth it.

✨ So before you go...​
Take a quiet moment to reflect:

✅ Where might you be sacrificing the long game for a quick win?
✅ Where is your child asking for more time, more space, more trust?
✅ And where might you need the same?

Sometimes the slow path is the one that gets us the furthest.

Love

Fiona